tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3550180966906196055.post7292531633320072144..comments2023-07-08T10:48:38.190-04:00Comments on my goodly heritage: Book Review: 4 Weeks to a Better-Behaved ChildMartahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14494813731003889158noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3550180966906196055.post-39479448873581949082010-08-26T08:42:03.908-04:002010-08-26T08:42:03.908-04:00Wow, Marta, I have never posted a comment on a blo...Wow, Marta, I have never posted a comment on a blog, but I am blown away by this book review. Unlike you, I am not a great writer, so I can't write the review of your book review that I would like - I would spout some cliches like "unflinching honesty," perhaps. I love your book reviews!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04614704102120929202noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3550180966906196055.post-15740115467939536062009-04-16T09:00:00.000-04:002009-04-16T09:00:00.000-04:00Thanks so much everyone! Things are still going w...Thanks so much everyone! Things are still going well, not perfect, but we're on the right track!<br /><br />Jo: The beauty of this book is that it's pretty simple, and you don't really need to keep referring back to it. It's geared at kids as young as three, I think, so you might want to check it out.<br /><br />Claire: my love, you are MY inspiration in so so many ways. Hang in there until the end of the semester. xoxo<br /><br />Patrick: I actually agree -- I need a marble jar too! I'm only half kidding -- the notion of focusing on a few "jobs" at a time until they become good habits and then giving yourself a little reward, I'm thinking that's not a bad idea for grown-ups as well. May blog about it someday....<br /><br />Java: I would love to know how things work out with your son, whether this is helpful at all. Best of luck! Parenting is grand, but humbling, huh?<br /><br />Sara: it doesn't get much more awesome than you, friend!<br /><br />Melissa: this might really help .... thinking of all of you ....<br /><br />d: you totally recognize yourself, right? i think i would have lost my mind years ago without your friendship ....Martahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14494813731003889158noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3550180966906196055.post-67936467065904138152009-04-15T11:11:00.000-04:002009-04-15T11:11:00.000-04:00i am just seeing this now... with tears streaming ...i am just seeing this now... with tears streaming down my cheeks, i am so, so overwhelmed and in awe of you.<br />love you. xoxo, d.donnahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15349091417595240915noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3550180966906196055.post-22074679219075838822009-04-10T19:49:00.000-04:002009-04-10T19:49:00.000-04:00Great post, Marta! The timing is perfect as we're ...Great post, Marta! The timing is perfect as we're struggling with Miles at present -- we got a letter from the principal today because he *punched* some kid on the bus! There's been a lot of yelling around here lately. Putting that book on my library queue right now, and glad to hear that things have calmed down at your place.Melissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02514055311027146205noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3550180966906196055.post-39289568343223181132009-04-06T18:01:00.000-04:002009-04-06T18:01:00.000-04:00wow - how awesome.wow - how awesome.Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14845238782433405641noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3550180966906196055.post-66255129805865743982009-04-05T17:59:00.000-04:002009-04-05T17:59:00.000-04:00Marta, Patrick referred me here. He told me that a...Marta, Patrick referred me here. He told me that as he read this he kept thinking of the situation I have with my son. Sure enough, there are amazing similarities between your story and mine. My therapist just recommended Ross Green's book _The Explosive Child_ which I have on order from Amazon. I like the sound of 4 Weeks ...Child, too. <BR/><BR/>My son is 11 years old and has been oppositional since very early childhood. Parenting is an interesting adventure.Javahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17377033663576614925noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3550180966906196055.post-53475247803637953912009-04-05T11:25:00.000-04:002009-04-05T11:25:00.000-04:00This was fascinating and inspiring, my friend. I ...This was fascinating and inspiring, my friend. I suspect consistency would be MY big stumbling block as a parent as well. Well, one of the big ones. Lisa sounds like a wonderful resource. Why do I have a funny feeling I would benefit from a system like this too, even without kids? As a side note (or maybe it isn't), I've come to suspect that righteousness and vulnerability are two sides of a coin. I am usually righteous about stuff I'm secretly insecure about. <BR/>God bless parents! I get tired just thinking about all this.Patrickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10556860299477514075noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3550180966906196055.post-26275449088288132022009-04-04T00:06:00.000-04:002009-04-04T00:06:00.000-04:00Marta, you are a beautiful, inspirational parent. ...Marta, you are a beautiful, inspirational parent. I'm glad you shared this -- your experiences loving Micah and helping him develop the great beauty he so often radiates as well as your review of this book. Just like you say, I would never have even given a book with this title a second glance, but it sounds really helpful.<BR/><BR/>Asher is on the easy spectrum, mostly. but it's that mostly that gets us every time. we have absolutely no consistent or effectual way of reacting to bad behavior, and lately at preschool there have been some crazy bad moments. I end up hissing and hissing at him angrily like a possessed demon lady, coming up with crazy threats to try to impress him back to his usual reasonable self, and yes, being terribly ashamed of myself afterward, knowing I am totally ineffectual and the whole shebang... I am totally going to give this a look (once the semester is survived).<BR/><BR/>Even more than a book review, though, this was a profound essay about all the different kinds of love it takes to care for yourself, your kids, partner, family, world.<BR/><BR/>speaking of which, love you lots!Clairenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3550180966906196055.post-38407240517083588362009-04-03T16:40:00.000-04:002009-04-03T16:40:00.000-04:00I think I will be needing this book about the time...I think I will be needing this book about the time you're done with it.<BR/><BR/>It sounds great -- like a slightly older-geared version of _Setting Limits with You Strong-Willed Child_, which is a big help around here.Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02551872881971981258noreply@blogger.com